There, I said it.

I joined a few because we’re doing our vow renewal and that is essentially a wedding. Maybe wedding, part 2. But wow, am I entirely too entertained by the posts. For one reason or another, there’s always something interesting happening in the bridal world.

Part of this is simply because a lot of people who get married are young and plenty of those people don’t understand how the world works. You might see a bride say she wants to feed 150 people on a $500 budget. Which, $500 might sound like a lot of money. But for that many people that works out to just over $3.30 per plate. Which, you can’t even get a combo meal at a fast food restaurant for that little.

Sometimes it’s other cultures and customs, which I find super interesting. Weddings sometimes blend two different cultures and figure out how to make it work. Recently I saw a group of women discussing which county has the prettiest marriage licenses so they could make an attractive display. It never occured to me to display a marriage license. I always thought a wedding photo was more something to put on your wall from the big day.

To be fair, this is what the top of our marriage certificate looks like. It’s not exactly beautiful. But also, I feel slightly strange about displaying a personal record like that. No one pins their social security card or birth certificate to the wall. Has all my cybersecurity training made me paranoid? Who knows?

It’s always fun to see the wedding dresses everyone tries on. There was one particular dress that I had absolutely loved. But when I saw it on a real person, I realized unless you are a size 2 with no hips (like all of the models I had seen wearing it), the dress doesn’t do you any favors. Meanwhile, plenty of other dresses looked far better on the average person.

There’s always the outliers who post that they want to charge their friends and family for the privilege of attending their wedding. Or ridiculous wedding drama that is so toxic and one-sided makes you wonder if this is another one of those fake Reddit stories.

But I would say the majority of the posts are young people seeking empowerment to make their own choices, do what is right for them, and express themselves at their wedding. Getting married is an adult activity (or it should be. I’m looking at you, child bride states) and a lot of the people getting married are new to adulthood.

There’s something so innocent in brides asking if a pairing of two colors will make for a cohesive color palette or a woman saying she wants everyone to play board games instead of dance at her reception, but she’s not sure if this is allowed. I support these brides so much. Because they are becoming amazing people and it’s kind of cool to see them figuring things out.

I will be staying in the wedding groups and enjoying the entertainment. I will also be posting that their wedding colors look amazing and their cocktail appetizers sound amazing.